@TehBamski@lemmy.world to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish • 3 months agoWhat's the best psychology trick you know?message-square91fedilinkarrow-up1129arrow-down14
arrow-up1125arrow-down1message-squareWhat's the best psychology trick you know?@TehBamski@lemmy.world to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish • 3 months agomessage-square91fedilink
minus-squareXavienthlinkfedilink6•3 months agoIn an argument, never use “you”. No accusations. Keep a calm, relaxed tone of voice. Even if they don’t concede, they will eventually apologize and reconsider their position, but it may take a while after the conversation ended. “I told you you shouldn’t have bought that.” “I didn’t think that purchase was necessary.” “You upset me.” “I was made to feel upset.”
minus-square@JustinTheGM@ttrpg.networklinkfedilinkEnglish9•3 months agoYou don’t even have to passive voice it - a simple “I felt upset” is fully valid without assigning blame.
minus-squarecomfylinkfedilink4•3 months agoAlso, at least where I live, it’s much more casual and less sterile and stilted than the verbose “I was made to feel upset”.
In an argument, never use “you”. No accusations. Keep a calm, relaxed tone of voice. Even if they don’t concede, they will eventually apologize and reconsider their position, but it may take a while after the conversation ended.
“I told you you shouldn’t have bought that.”“I didn’t think that purchase was necessary.”
“You upset me.”“I was made to feel upset.”
You don’t even have to passive voice it - a simple “I felt upset” is fully valid without assigning blame.
Also, at least where I live, it’s much more casual and less sterile and stilted than the verbose “I was made to feel upset”.