Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as “whatever you say you fucking dumbass” and it pisses me off.

And ya, I’m aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let’s see em ya jerks!!!

  • @Flamangoman@leminal.spaceOP
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    I guess I just picture a chat as a textual representation of a conversation and if I said to you, want to get dinner at 6, and you replied 👍 in real life, I would cancel the dinner lmao

    • @Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      223 hours ago

      It’s pretty clear the issue here is you. Specifically, your reaction. The solution to than can only come from you. The world will not bend to you and the world is not responsible for making you feel certain things, that’s all you.

    • @lenz@lemmy.ml
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      You saying you’d straight up cancel a dinner because someone gave you a thumbs up instead of a verbal response genuinely blew my mind lmao. Ngl fam, that’s a bit extreme. I give people the thumbs up all the time, and imagining someone becoming so upset at me for doing it that they’d cancel our dinner together is insane to me. I couldn’t be friends with such a person without feelings like so was constantly walking on eggshells.

    • @Zak@lemmy.world
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      I see where you’re coming from now. In most English-speaking cultures, it is not conventional to use hand gestures as a substitute for spoken words in a conversation. Breaking social conventions for no apparent reason is at least potentially rude.

      You’re translating those conventions directly to chat. Chat is not spoken word, and it is conventional to use emojis, at least the really unambiguous ones, instead of typed words in chat some of the time. People do not usually do this with any rude or insulting intent.

      • @Flamangoman@leminal.spaceOP
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        61 day ago

        I appreciate the level headed reply in the sea of insanity I have started with this thread.

        Honestly, I don’t interpret it as something malicious ever either, like I don’t think everyone is actually telling me to fuck myself, it just reads that way to me.

    • TAG
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      102 days ago

      You and I are very different then. If I tell someone that dinner is at 6 and they give me a thumbs up, I would interpret that as “I acknowledge that I heard you and have no objections. It is not worth taking my attention off of whatever I am doing.”

    • @tyler@programming.dev
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      I do not think the majority of people would agree that chat is a textual representation of a conversation. It’s its own thing and this is evident by slang, leetcode, emoticons, emoji, and euphemisms (🍆💦). How people talk over text is completely different than how they speak in real life, especially when they’re typing fast.

    • @BCsven@lemmy.ca
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      122 days ago

      If you are mid drinking or chewing and somebody asks you a question, a thumbs up is perfectly acceptable as a yes. Otherwise its a bit odd, but not offensive. Its like a +1 affirmation

    • It’s probably one of the auto responses on their side when the text alert pops up. Maybe they were driving or I. The middle of something and it was just easier for them to respond this way.