This one lady is considered very kind. She is to most people, that’s why they consider her this way. The lady’s friend says they’re the problem if the lady is mean to them.
I’ve been treated very badly for having learning disabilities and attention problems. Rather than talk to me and try to help me, this lady tried to beat me up, wants to hurt me, and is now ignoring me because she said she hates me and blocked me. I’m happy without her, though.
Is it possible that she can act like this and still be a good and kind person despite hating people with problems and being a bit homophobic?
Why did this lady try to beat you up?
Because OP is disabled, from what I see
If this lady was walking her dog, spotted OP down the street, said “I think they have a disability” and then jogged down the street to sucker punch them, then I actually doubt OPs assertion that people generally think this lady is a good person.
OP has correctly concluded that things aren’t adding up here. I’m taking OP at their word that they want to understand. It might be that their assessment that others see this lady as good isn’t correct. It might also be that their assessment that the reason for the “trying to beat up” wasn’t because of their disability.
I’ve known some high-functioning autistic people who’ve gotten physically struck from saying extremely inappropriate things (from the perspective of the listener) after missing 100 social cues that people are incredibly offended. It’s unjustifiable, but I’d have been a shitty friend if I didn’t help them understand the social cues and why extremely accurate assessments should not always be vocalized… Or at least to understand how people are likely to react so they can make informed decisions.
No idea if this is OPs sitch, but it sounds like they’re trying to navigate a scenario they don’t understand, and I know I have more to offer than affirmations if they want that.
They did it when I went to their house
We’re going to need much more detail to accurately assess her behavior. At the risk of blaming the victim, but we can’t even establish that you’re the victim yet. There’s some situations where a punch would be totally justified and you haven’t confirmed or denied anything.
First things first, were you invited to her house (or had reason to think she’d welcome you)?
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I was invited. I went to her house and she invited me to go to her room. She pushed me onto the bed and told me to take my clothes off (she wanted to see if I was fat or something) but I refused. She said she was going to beat me up for refusing, but then she stopped and asked why I cared about her.
She left to do something, and I left the house and went home.
Okay, from this (and your deleted post), I think I can give you some advice. She’s not normal. Anyone who tells you she’s a nice person is either not normal or doesn’t know her. Don’t accept anyone treating you like that.
You didn’t mention any ages. It could still be that she’s a fairly normal 14 year old, I guess? Girls at that age tend to go a bit insane. (Boys take a few more years.) If that’s the case, I’d say that she honestly likes you and has no idea how to express it. You still shouldn’t accept her treating you like that, but it could be a salvagable situation. If she’s an adult though, tell any common friends what she’s truly like and never speak to her again.
She also almost bullied me to the point I considered suicide so I doubt she likes me at all
She’s 19 LOL
It sounds like you were raped. Not joking. Don’t interact with this person.
She just told me “fuck you, you should get tortured”
That’s a terrible thing to say to anyone, for any reason. I’m sorry that happened to you.
Did they say that as soon as you arrived? Or had you been talking before that?
Also, what is your relationship to this person?
Friends with one of my friends