• Hp0@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    Don’t ask the internet.

    But as you have. Do not do it just to please him. That will lead to issues. If you do it. Be sure it is something you are choosing for you as much as him.

    If you are in any way uncomfortable. Then future issues can be amplified by the resentment.

    Only you can know if this is something that appeals to you.

    And only the two of you can evaluate how likely it is to lead to jealousy or resentment.

    If you cannot openly talk about that risk and how you or your partner may respond to negative feelings. Neither of you is really ready for this,

    Your never being with anyone else is something you should discuss first. Your comments make it seem like that is important to you. Start by talking with him about how that makes you feel. Compared to his experience. If he cannot understand you opinions and emotions. Positive and negative on that. You need to enhance you communications/mutual understanding first,

    Being able to share both positive and negative feelings. Without blaming each other. Is essential for a marriage to survive anything like this.

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        1 year ago

        Likely old enough to be your grandfather. So while it not an activity I have any interest in myself.

        I have dated a woman who faced this choice in the past. We are still friends, so she shared her advice. With a little of my own.

  • bendovertherainbow@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    I think @Hp0@lemmynsfw.com covered it best - its something you should both want.

    To add to it, you can explore the ideas with some dirty talk with just the two of you, toys, even romance/erotic novels - the important part is to discuss before and after, talk about feelings and what is appealing, as well as (almost more importantly) what is not appealing.

    That said, emotions are a funny thing, and you can’t know exactly how you’d feel until its actually happening. Good discussing can help, as well as being able to express yourself clearly in the moment.

    Good luck!

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    1 year ago

    If you’re both totally on the same page, and it means I get to see more like this… hell yesss. You look incredible!

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    In an open marriage here. It can be fun if you both want it. Maybe explore alone first to find out what you want. But… those nipples! Amazing!