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Cake day: August 25th, 2025

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  • At that point you count on either extended family support (or both sets of grandparents), older kids to take care of the younger siblings or for kids to fend for themselves. One kid is a lot if you don’t have family support, let alone 2 or more. Definitely to each their own, but I could never (especially as the person in the relationship who would be popping those kids out).










  • My father would beg to differ. Some of the things I’ve heard: “who’s going to take care of you when you’re old”, “the undesirable immigrants with 5+ children will take over and ruin Europe”. He also told me I was being selfish when I was barely 18 for stating I didn’t want to have children because carrying a child for 9 months and childbirth terrify me. That shit still terrifies me to this day, on top of all the other reasons why I still don’t want to have children.

    Also, according to him the feelings a parent has for their child are “unexplainable”. That must be why my mom and and his mom were more a part of my childhood than he was!