No, the problem is definitely with your communication.
All this time, you had the rule that you have to use barley. But instead of communicating that, you only wrote that you HAVE barley.
Having something doesn’t mean that you are required to use it. I have rice, it doesn’t mean I have to use it in my next meal.
If somebody makes a steak from the pantry without barley, they have not followed your hidden intention, but they have followed your instructions.
So… it just seemed like your challenge was “tell me a food you like” in an unnecessary roundabout way.
















Wrong!
If dozens of people tell you you’re doing it wrong, then it’s time to take a critical look at your actions, instead of just accusing everybody else of doing it wrong.
Not being able to process criticism without immediately getting defensive will make your life more difficult than it needs to be.
Then again, it is a skill that some people simply do not have. You might be literally unable to “defeat the ego” and have absolutely no doubt about your actions, even after so many people gave you feedback, people like that exist.