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Cake day: August 7th, 2024

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  • I’ll do my best. I can vaguely remember some of the words that came out of my mouth when I was around 13-18 years old. Most of which were slurs rather than deep thoughts.

    The slurs were more to do with what was typical/acceptable talk at the time (late 90s-early 2000s) in combination with teenage boys love nothing more than being assholes to each other (typically to my straight friends) because they think it’s funny.

    Some of my “deeper thoughts”, for as well as a teenager can articulate, were to do with not understanding and frankly not actually trying to understand any other perspective. I believe I was simply trying to boost myself by stepping on others. I don’t think there was ever a point in which I hated gay people, but I do remember saying how I thought it was disgusting (gay sexual acts)and I had opinions on gay couples raising children even though I had no evidence to support those opinions.

    I don’t think any of it ever scared me, none of what I said was out of fear. I was never worried about liking it, as some other comments suggested. Instead, It was an easy way to safely feel superior to cope with my lengthy list of insecurities.

    As my brain began to mature, my thoughts quickly changed.

    So… Immaturity, insecurity, ignorance.

    Nowadays… regret. Sorry everyone.








  • Again, different places. Rentals are through the roof here, not a lot of savings to be had the prices went up along with the real estate. Plenty of rentals in cities, we’d have to relocate only to downsize then pay a comparable amount and be at the mercy of landlords. Owning houses, although expensive still makes sense here if you can do it. Living in a rental means you’ll never get out seeing as 2500+ monthly to live in a dump with rooms to accommodate children and much more to live in a larger city and/or nicer place. Rentals are a trap these days.


  • Unfortunately, in Canada, it’s not possible to live in a house with that type of work situation unless you’re of a much older generation and bought your house decades ago. When I was younger it was typical for the father to have the full-time job (blue collar) and his wife to have a part-time job for “fun money”. Those days are long gone. Any couple starting up are both going to need professional jobs and likely live with their parents for quite a few years if they want to crack the housing market only to live house-poor.

    I’m a millennial, I caught the middle ground. Housing wasn’t as expensive (but far from cheap) but still required both my wife and I to have above average paying jobs and we didn’t start having kids until our mid-30s in order to get our finances in order



  • Anyone can be a parent. Being a good parent, however, takes sacrifice. There are only so many hours in the day. And sure, I could game once they’re asleep but that means the laundry,dishes, lunches, etc. can’t get done which is a direct impact on their lives and your own. Most young parents will have to deprioritize gaming for years to make everything work. Imo good parenting comes with selflessness. Once your kids are properly automated you can slowly regain leisure time.