Do you have more information on this, or a phrase to Google? The idea of zero traffic, zero petty crime sounds incredibly impressive

I’d be mindful about being so prescriptive with solutions like that. What works well for you may not work well for someone else. But I do appreciate your input! Maybe try sharing it with more “I statements”?

It’s a somewhat common thing with ADHD folks. As different parts of the brain start to fall asleep, there’s a sweet spot where our brains are finally balanced. In other words, our limited executive function has adequate energy to manage just the fraction of the brain that’s still awake.

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I agree that straight up using Tailscale would likely be easier. But to answer your question, you’re looking to “push routes” because what you actually want to do is “route” but that’s kinda hard to Google haha. This looks maybe promising: https://forums.freebsd.org/threads/wireguard-how-to-route-another-subnet-through-it.89744/

This approach largely works, with the caveat that it then requires you to always be on the tailnet. If someone wants to connect locally AND via tailnet using the same URL, they’ll need to push/advertise routes (or do some other hacky thing)

Right now, I’ve only got the spoons to provide rough guidance, not details. In order to use non-tailnet IPs, you’ll need to configure your tailnet host to “advertise routes/push routes”. In more laymen terms, tailnet needs to say, “hey network client, I do know where 192.168.0.69 is! So I can route that request”. By default, each tailnet host only advertises the other tailnet hosts. Anything else fails.

Also, I really appreciate how detailed your question is!

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I just did it by thinking up this UUID: 4d6b3a08-e1b5-407c-bb6c-cbac830ff4bd

“the annual risk of a given person being hit by a meteorite is estimated to be one chance in 17 billion, which means the probability is about 0.00000000006 (6 × 10−11), equivalent to the odds of creating a few tens of trillions of UUIDs in a year and having one duplicate. In other words, only after generating 1 billion UUIDs every second for the next 100 years, the probability of creating just one duplicate would be about 50%.”

Broadly, a person can only control their reactions to situations; they can’t control others. It’s part of establishing healthy boundaries. Your scenario would be an excellent topic to bring up in therapy because it’s a real and recurring issue that probably has a lot of interesting depth to explore

Wow, no ambiguity or anything. Jesus Fucking Christ

I appreciate you (I’m too lazy to upvote)

idk if this is a programming specific question. It feels more like “perfectionism” or a low-level OCD. For the programming piece, using some sort of task tracking system might be helpful. For example, after a task has been completed (aka a solution was found), move on to the next predefined task.

Another vaguely related term: premature optimization

To add, here’s an example of my OpenVPN config addition to ensure 192.168.3.* is accessible over VPN

verb 5
push "route 192.168.3.0 255.255.255.0 vpn_gateway"

I nominate this guy for Syrian Civil War expert

imo, this situation is way too complex for internet strangers to effectively help with. It’s definitely worthwhile to seek out therapy to help process these feelings and to make a plan for resolving some of the deeper issues at play.

To answer your question indirectly, I think you need to learn to stand up and protect yourself. Those are skills, and they’re learned skills. I’m making big assumptions here, but I’m guessing your parents never taught you good boundary setting. A quote that’s gone viral recently is that “[the definitive symptom of childhood trauma is] trying to get a difficult person to be good to us in our adult lives.” You probably don’t believe this internally yet, but you deserve to be treated with kindness. Difficult people do not deserve you.

I love this book in particular, and it’s widely available for free in libraries. https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095

Awesome! Thanks for the detailed update, and I’m glad it worked well for you!

Gice

How so?