I was doing an exchange high school year in Santa Clara, California. Nowadays I look back on this time and wonder how on earth I didn’t get shot. My daughter is definitely picking another country for an exchange year.

Also, I refused to get Facebook, but this bit me in the ass because it was the way to communicate and stay in touch back then, and I ended up losing all the contacts I made in that school.

There are large chunks of it that are really repetitive and boring, just things like the number of goats and chickens owned by so and so.

That honestly sounds like the exposition of every character in a Wes Anderson movie

Wait what does the jacket you choose have to do with backpacks?

Banana with brown almond butter (that one that is 100% almonds).

Mandatory mention that cup size means nothing without the band size.

A C cup with a 70 cm band is much smaller in volume than a C cup with a 90 cm band. 70G and 90C have equivalent breast volume (if you go with A, B C, D, E, F, G as nomenclature).

Which is especially annoying because as a 70G you still get the industrial support model while you’d be fine with a turtle dove model. And if you have a band width below 70 you are absolutely fucked, although a lot of petite women would do better in 65.

The funny thing is I can taste and smell this ice cream and my mom would tell me “no, no, this one tastes different, plombir in the Soviet Union was something different”. There’s a lot of older people longing for that ice cream that you are holding as if it could bring back youth. It’s crazy.

(I will assume that the 1992 version was still the old taste)

When our child started cutting, we bought her left handed scissors so that she had both at had and could try it out. Her left handed dad - who grew up in a country which had no left handed things - wasn’t able to use the scissors. He can also not use a left handed guitar, he has played like a righty his whole life because a left handed guitar was unaffordable and “you need two hands to play the guitar anyway, duh”.

Anyway, she’s developing into a lefty, but no one is touching the scissors.

How is Die Linke neoliberal, zionist, or xenophobic?

Well that’s a Killers fact I didn’t expect today :D thanks for that

Lip balms, nail clippers, and we have a lot of laundry baskets despite living in a 3 room apartment. Two or three per room and three/four in the main laundry collecting area.

I was snoopy at a fair.

The job description said “must be 160 cm or shorter”. I am 161 cm. This one cm was felt for all the 6 hours.

I was also insanely hot and blind so at one point I started and kept dancing macarena to not pass out and stay awake. I kept getting phone calls for three years afterwards because they wanted me to work for them again. No way.

If you substitute the sugar with a xylitol or erythritol it will basically have no calories at all.

To be honest, I think this is the first time I have even heard the term pederast. I’ll keep that in mind for future discussions, thanks.

I agree. It is still rape.

And yet we differentiate rapes in the legal system, or don’t we? We look at the circumstances. The whole debate here ensured because we brought the term pedophile into it. Even if you take the word in its wrong sense - as someone who is having [illegal] sex with a minor - you now specified the rape.

As in this case, it was statutory rape. As someone else pointed out, the second boy the teacher had sex with was 16, which is the age of consent in the UK. So if he was a student at another school, and she had had sex with him, she would be legally in the clear - no crime and no pedo. So now her being a pedophile or not depends on the school the boy is going to? Had she been a teacher at a school in Germany she could have legally had sex with both boys, provided they weren’t in her class. Yet what she did was illegal and statutory rape. You’re unnecessarily bringing pathological attraction into a rape case.

I’d also argue that motive matters. Is she attracted to younger boys only? Or does she get off on the fact that they are her subordinates? This matters for prevention.

I don’t know about the way sentencing in the UK works, but I sincerely hope that a person who rapes a 10 year old gets a harsher sentence than someone who committed statutory rape with a 16 year old.

In your car metaphor - she drove the car into people. Does this make every car driver a murderer in the making? And are motorcyclists in the clear because they cannot drive a car into people?

I’m glad you feel a bit supported, I was also very sad to see how your comment got so many downvotes. But unfortunately that is common on lemmy, I got tons of downvotes last time I argued that round.

Your example makes little sense though. You’re talking about a subsection of microorganisms with specific needs. You won’t talk about an extremophile using the word mesophile and then get annoyed that people are confused or assume that they know what you are talking about.

You know what, that’s probably the best suggestion I’ve heard on this topic in a while. You’re right, “pedophile” as a word is just completely ruined. You can probably go about and raise awareness as much as you want and demand a correct use of the word, but at the end of the day, the societal connotation is there and you won’t get it off the word anymore. Maybe a new word would really be the easiest way to go.

I see where you are coming from, but I disagree that there is no difference. Apart from ages of consent being different among different countries (greetings from a place where you can have sexual relations from 14 years onwards), which already points at a grey zone for an age of maturity, I would ague that the physical and mental damage is different. A 15 or 16 year old might already have had some sexual experiences, or will have at least heard of what sex is, and (more or less) understand what is happening. The younger the child, the greater the damage to the body, and a child that doesn’t even know what sex is yet will carry a different kind of mental trauma from the assault.

I’ll also include the mandatory paragraph about a philia not being a felony in itself. Why it’s important is not just out of respect and support for non offending minor attracted persons who will be less likely to come out and seek help with a witch hunt for people with their orientation, but also to raise the absolutely necessary awareness that a great chunk of minor sexual assault cases are committed not by people with a -philia, but by people with regular (i.e. adult) sexual orientations. So you are not safe just because the person in question is proven not to have an attraction towards minors.

It’s funny how we spent the whole last decade stating that language matters, but somehow when it comes to pedophilia, everyone stops caring about correct language.

Let’s just assume it happened because back then toys were more sturdy

Cursing bike building Santa sounds like an impressive memory