Yeah, so, when I think about it, her sense of humor has definitely gotten darker over time. But I always assumed it was because I already have a dark sense of humor, so it was just rubbing off on her.

As far as other behavior goes? She’s truly the same woman I married, in every way. She still loves going to play mahjong with our friends, wants to go on hikes, basically all the activities we do, she actively wants to do them. There’s no signs of her acting withdrawn. She asked me if we were going camping later this month, just yesterday. It’s why I feel so blindsided. I know mental health issues have different symptoms for everyone, but how common is it for the only symptom to be kept in a journal?

Can you just…idk, get used to be depressed? Because if she really has felt like this for years and years, she’s not acting like it.

I grew up in a mixed pet family. My dad loves cats; my mom dogs. It was exactly the way you describe it, too. I get why people adore cats and dogs both, but they do draw different personalities.

Yes, you can’t expect an animal that basically tamed itself to respect your boundaries, and that’s why dog people don’t like them. They jump on the counter or try to break your coffee cup if it’s too close to the edge of the table.

But overwhelmingly, in my experience as a cat shelter volunteer, people who have owned catsand do not like them feel that way, not because Mittens got overstimulated and scratched them once, but because they cannot cope with their boundaries being disrespected all the time. It isn’t the cats fault, true. It’s just an animal acting the way it evolved to act–but let’s try to be understanding about why many people struggle with them as pets.

It really does take a certain personality to be okay with living with a cat.

I like cats, but this argument is dumb. The people I know who don’t like cats don’t like them precisely because cats don’t respect boundaries or consent the way dogs do.

I have no idea. I know the city animal control has it now. She is trying to get him released, though.

A friend of my wife and I got a pit bull a couple months ago. She was going on and on about how sweet he is and how he would never hurt anyone. Last week, it mauled her roommate. Nearly took his hand off while he was changing into his work clothes. His career is likely over and she’s still defending the dog.

Probably the allegations she had an affair with Trump aide Corey Lewandowski. As we all know, family values is when you cheat on your husband.

Congress is hopelessly broken, gridlocked and unable to pass policy on its own merit. That’s how we end up with quadrillion page omnibus bills every year. It’s a failed institution, and it’s been this way since at least Reagan.

That’s very true. It’s less that it can happen, and more that it’s happening with virtually every trade agreement at once, along with dozens of diplomatic norms.

That said, the authority of the executive is undeniably stronger today than back then. Congress has acquiesed its authority and powers on virtually every issue imaginable and it alternates between being too complicit and too incompetent to change that (and too gridlocked to achieve meaningful policy anyway).

There are too many metastisizing issues to count at this point.

It could take decades longer than even that. America has experienced mind-boggling collapse in just 4 months. The damage to its reputation will take an entire restructuring of the powers of the executive branch to overcome. I mean, who wants to make a deal with an admin, when every 4 years it can go back on its word?

We still have at least 43 more months to look forward to. The bottom hasn’t even begun to drop.

Is it more underreported than the notoriously underreported abuse in schools?

For real, we are on a post where an abusive career teacher got a ‘teacher of the year award’ no doubt in part for her behavior around students.

I am not doing this to whatabout abuse in the Catholic Church. I left it and won’t be going back. But it’s so odd to bring it up on a post about a teacher getting charged, the school clearly not identifying the problem (she had been a teacher for 11 years, it had been going on for a year, they didn’t report it and even rewarded her behavior prior to the reports).

Schools have a serious systemic problem here too, and I don’t believe we should deflect every time it makes the news. That’s all.

Yeah, I’m sorry about that. Got hit with three notifications at the same time and replied to the wrong one.

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You clearly didn’t read it. The rate not the raw number. Per the Dept. of Education, 5-7% of teachers are abusers. That is 20-50+% higher than the rate (i.e percent) priests abuse. The average school in America has several abusers in it.

Lemmy talks a big game about the Catholics, and damn does that church know how to run a cover up, but schools are frankly ripe for reforms and accountability.

Teachers abuse students at a rate of 20-50% higher than Catholic priests. Not defending the priests or anything, but I think we forget how horrificly high the abuse rate of teachers is.

You know he actually did a Nazi salute right?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elon_Musk_salute_controversy?wprov=sfla1

Speaking as a former Catholic, I honestly believe being more conservative will make the church more relevant. I’m not saying that’s a good thing, to be clear, but we see what is happening to more liberal Christian denominations universally–they’re rapidly declining. There are a number of reasons why that is, but liberal theology failing to retain members is a component there.

I think the most relevant issue the Church can bring to bear today is one that conservative and liberal Catholics alike tend to agree on. Even the most hard-line trad priests and laity I knew had a visceral hatred for laizez-faire capitalism (and often capitalism at large) and the commodification of the human experience. Pope Francis gave voice to it, and the next pope must follow suit. If he doesn’t, regardless of theology, the church is doomed.

I haven’t set up the VPN yet. I am getting as much info as I can before I start any work. For the sake of this discussion, it would be a box on my network.

So I should just host it with an IP address instead of using the domain?

I hadn’t thought to do that, at least not for anything other than short lived internal-network-only projects and tests. An IT guy in the company I work for advised me to just get a domain and host with it/subdomains to make it easier to manage if I wanted to host multiple services.

I will need it to be available via a VPN or other means, but it’s not going to be any more public-facing than it has to be.