• @alsimoneau@lemmy.ca
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    810 months ago

    Religion isn’t something intrinsic about a person. If you hate the fact that you’re a Muslim, you can opt out.

    You cannot opt out being queer.

    • Flying Squid
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      010 months ago

      Okay then, you don’t hear about white bigots being secretly light-skinned black people. Pick whatever group you want. Queer people are the only one I can think of where it’s regularly claimed that the people bigoted against them are themselves the people they are bigoted against.

      • @nomous@lemmy.world
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        010 months ago

        Nah it’s a tale as old as time, we used to call it “the one who smelt it dealt it” but the principle is the same. The most fervent and vocal are often just trying to cover their own asses.

        • Flying Squid
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          310 months ago

          Can you name another example where bigotry against a traditionally marginalized minority is virtually always claimed to be coming from that minority?

          • @nomous@lemmy.world
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            10 months ago

            I don’t care to sit here all day thinking about it and I’m not sure I agree with that characterization anyway, it seems like you’re just looking for a fight honestly.

            Do you understand what I’m saying though, are you familiar with the phrase? Another is “when you point the finger at someone you have three pointed back at you.” It’s a fairly common bit of folk wisdom.

            • Flying Squid
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              210 months ago

              I understand what you’re saying, I just don’t agree with your analogy where you equate suggesting all homophobes are secretly gay with accusing someone of farting.

              • @nomous@lemmy.world
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                010 months ago

                How about “when you point the finger at someone you have three pointed back at you” is that better?

                If you’re in a room full of people, and you “lose” something, the person that helps look for it the most, the one who won’t give up and is very curious about where your item “went” is the thief.

                • Flying Squid
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                  210 months ago

                  And yet you can’t think of one other marginalized group of people where every time a finger is pointed at them, people claim the person doing the pointing is part of that group.

                  Curious that you don’t find that problematic despite having no other examples.

                  • @nomous@lemmy.world
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                    010 months ago

                    Self-hate is a funny thing.

                    I wonder if that’s a “law” yet ala Goodwin, Winslow, Murphy, etc. “The hate a person has for a group is proportionate to the amount of “denied/repressed belonging” that same person has to said group.”