Tried Bumble. Got a match with a woman whose interests seemed fairly similar to mine, seemed like a very cool person overall.
Couldn’t message her and the match expired because they only last 24h or something on Bumble and I believe you can extend once (for 24h).
Stopped using the app shortly after that.
At least on Tinder I’d get matches. Mostly low quality (by low quality I don’t mean the person… I mean that we just didn’t have much in common), but they existed and I could message them.
Bumble removing that means it’s perhaps now usable for someone who’s not super conventionally attractive, but has enough personality to kick off a conversation. But it also means that now it’s just the same as all the other apps.
The article doesn’t say what you’re claiming it says.
While it is not ditching the requirement for women to make the first move, its female users can now send a template question such as “What book or film changed the way you think?”, using the site’s Opening Moves feature.
I’m going to ignore all the problems in the article, like how it pretends that putting in effort to message someone first and not getting a sufficient reply is some new phenomenon that uniquely affects women 🙄 holy shit
I’ve met my current girlfriend via bumble, back in early 2023. As a man, I was extremely annoyed at how many women would match with me and never send a message, felt like a full 2/3. Seems like half of them skipped the “you, woman, are supposed to start the conversation”, never understanding why none of the men ever sent a hi
My gf was one that initially didn’t understand that dynamic and nearly lost our match, she had to be told by a friend (that recommended her use the app in the first place) that she had to send the first message. Dunno how much could be the app’s fault, it does state during profile creation that women make the first move, but it probably didn’t put any other reminders afterwards.
Other dates I went out with also had similar stories of not paying attention to that message.
Fun fact about Bumble:
Initially, only women were able to start conversation after matching. This ‘feature’ was removed recently.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/article/2024/may/04/a-lot-of-effort-to-get-one-date-bumble-app-makes-womens-first-move-easier
Lol. Lmao even.
Tried Bumble. Got a match with a woman whose interests seemed fairly similar to mine, seemed like a very cool person overall.
Couldn’t message her and the match expired because they only last 24h or something on Bumble and I believe you can extend once (for 24h).
Stopped using the app shortly after that.
At least on Tinder I’d get matches. Mostly low quality (by low quality I don’t mean the person… I mean that we just didn’t have much in common), but they existed and I could message them.
Bumble removing that means it’s perhaps now usable for someone who’s not super conventionally attractive, but has enough personality to kick off a conversation. But it also means that now it’s just the same as all the other apps.
The article doesn’t say what you’re claiming it says.
I’m going to ignore all the problems in the article, like how it pretends that putting in effort to message someone first and not getting a sufficient reply is some new phenomenon that uniquely affects women 🙄 holy shit
I’ve met my current girlfriend via bumble, back in early 2023. As a man, I was extremely annoyed at how many women would match with me and never send a message, felt like a full 2/3. Seems like half of them skipped the “you, woman, are supposed to start the conversation”, never understanding why none of the men ever sent a hi
That sounds like a huge issue.
It was.
My gf was one that initially didn’t understand that dynamic and nearly lost our match, she had to be told by a friend (that recommended her use the app in the first place) that she had to send the first message. Dunno how much could be the app’s fault, it does state during profile creation that women make the first move, but it probably didn’t put any other reminders afterwards.
Other dates I went out with also had similar stories of not paying attention to that message.