I’d personally argue that any condition with lack of empathy has a higher chance of leading to abusive behaviours.

Autism is associated with reduced cognitive empathy, which is the ability to intuit others’ thoughts. As an autistic being, it’s harder for Me to tell what other people are thinking and what they mean to communicate, outside My areas of expertise. But having autism doesn’t make Me abusive.

Another similarity between autism and NPD is the name. Autism is Latin for self-ism. Early psychiatrists believed us ASD folks were preoccupied with ourselves, same with NPD. NPD has had less social progress, so uneducated people still believe that about NPD, even though increased awareness has helped people grow beyond that thinking with ASD.

Damn. It didn’t work.

Alas, that was not the answer

Oh, I’m talking about My friend, Riley. He’s a bit of a prick but he’s never abused anyone. His biggest character flaw is that he loves his rural American family, and they’re not the best about his transness.

Man this is just like watching a Ben Shapiro video. I’m an evil abusive wokescold for asking someone to use inclusive language. I didn’t know we had this kind of person on the Fediverse.

The only diagnostic criteria for NPD that’s related to harm is the one that says “interpersonally exploitative behaviour”. Since a diagnosis required 5/9 criteria, it was very easy to get diagnosed without that criterion. And now that the DSM-5 is out with the new dimensional model of personality disorders, harming others isn’t even a criterion anymore in the up to date model.

The idea that NPD is defined by harming others is old outdated pseudoscience. Leading experts on personality disorder no longer believe in that stereotype.

Self help gurus continue to sell you that old lie, because it’s profitable. It makes you an easy mark who will buy useless books and stew in your trauma. Never getting better, just buying more.

Asking people to use person first language for mental disorders is extremely normal. It’s weird that you’re not used to it by now. It’s 2026.

Oh, you mean the mental disorder? Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

Yeah, you shouldn’t be using that word if you don’t have NPD. The APA recommends person-first language (person with NPD) or identity-first language (narcissistic person). Label-only language promotes stigma, prejudice, and hatred. You shouldn’t promote hatred against people with mental disorders.

I’m sorry that you have a find out this way, but you’ve been scammed.

Self-help books have sold you and your community the idea that abuse is caused by a mental disorder. Unfortunately, the remedy these scams prescribe - identifying people with NPD - doesn’t actually protect you from abuse, and it isn’t healing.

You won’t find healing from your trauma in ableist Reddit communities. See an actual therapist and form positive relationships with people in your community. Not “support groups” that blame all their problems on their abusers’ supposed mental disorders and engage in retraumatising. Get a hobby, spend time with friends in the hobby. Join a book club or a bouldering group or a D&D game.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is caused by genetics and child abuse. People with NPD are abuse victims, just like you. There are plenty of mentally healthy, neurotypical abusers in the world. Blaming shit on a vulnerable minority is pseudoscientific and counterproductive.

To be fair, every generation is getting dumber thanks to AI

100 years ago, each family worked 40 hours of wage labour a week, plus childrearing and chores

Today, each family works 80 hours of wage labour a week, plus childrearing and chores

In order to restore the labour rights of 100 years ago, I propose a 20 hour work week!

That sounds more like a theseist. Narcissus didn’t want to use online dating, he actually didn’t want to date anyone. People kept asking him out and he always said no. According to Conon he “rejected Eros”, which is a fucked up religious way to say he was aroace.

It’s happened with Skyrim, Starcraft I, Omnibus, and Big Walk.

KDE Plasma with Kwin

Chat, I need help. Since a couple updates ago, CaxhyOS isn’t focusing on Proton applications properly. If I click on a Proton window, it doesn’t actually focus it unless I first minimise all applications, or then minimise another application. It’s super annoying for alt-tabbing fullscteen games, since I have to go to the desktop before going into a game.

Curiously, I don’t think it happens with Bitburner, which lately I’ve had running all the time. So maybe it’s only happening with the second game I launch at a time? Not sure.

Thanks! You’re woke!

If you don’t have NPD, I think you should avoid using that word. You can say “person with NPD” instead.

Less person. More animal/monster. More images. More feelings. Mindset changes. Less wanting to conform. Less society in head. More direct desire. More motivation, willpower. Want do things. Want cuddle mate, want eat food, want do work for good life.

~ Vivace

It habit. To form, practice think without talk. Spend more and more time. Use few word when have to speak. Better for keeping habit going.

~ Vivace

Oh, I can turn My internal monologue off! When I was a teenager, I read how language shapes our ability to think. So I trained Myself to think without language, to increase the range of thoughts I’m capable of having and reduce bias.

Sometimes I realise I’m getting overstimulated (autism) by too much talking in My life, so I spend a few days with less internal monologue, to give Myself a break from speech, at least in My head. Then the buzzing sensation goes away and I slowly go back to having an internal monologue.